To Believe or Not Believe: Is He Cheating?

I had suspected my husband of cheating for maybe 9-10 months with a co-worker of his. I confronted him numerous times and he has denied it, but I could feel him pulling away little by little. I got a hold of our detailed billing for our cell phones and found numerous calls to this certain co-worker and confronted him and his response was that they were just friends. But they would call each other 10-12 times a day at work. We are now separated and I am not sure if I should believe him.

Let’s see... you confronted your husband on numerous occasions with your allegations. Now you have hard evidence that your husband has been having an intimate relationship (10-12 phone calls a day sound pretty intimate even if they are not having sex!), he continues to deny it, your separated, and now you are wondering whether you should believe him. The fact is, you don’t believe him and every bone in your body says he has been cheating on you. If you need more evidence, call up the woman. You have the phone number. Find out from her. Your letter does not say how you and your husband came to separate. Is he missing something in the marriage that he is getting from her? Did you leave or did he? Is he seeing this other woman romantically now? Does he want to make the marriage work? If so, make an appointment with a marriage counselor and get to work on it. If he doesn’t want to go for help with marriage, you will have further evidence that something is amiss.