Upgrading Operating Systems: A Psychological Metaphor
As I have been going through the frustrations of upgrading my computer from Windows XP to Windows 7 I began to think about why I am doing this. I should have left well-enough alone following the adage, "if it ain't broke, why fix it." Then I realized that I am one of those folks who embrace change. As frustrating and even painful as change can be, the challenges and growth from change can also be exhilarating.
Some people resist change. They function in the world perfectly fine as long as everything fits into their existing world view. They don't like new fangled technology or new fangled ideas. It is only when forced to change that they even consider modifying a position and then only under duress. When it comes to computers, they would still be using Windows 95 if they could get their programs to work.
Layman's Introduction to Computers
For those of you who are not familiar with computer lingo, let me introduce you to the phrase "operating system". The operating system or OS on a computer is the platform from which all of the programs that are installed on the computer function. These programs are installed within the operating system and are used to manipulate data, e.g., to run spreadsheets or create documents. The data put into a computer does not change; however, they way it is manipulated may change depending on the program and/or operating system handles data.
Each computer comes with a motherboard that is the brain of the computer. It is the hard-wiring. The OS is installed after the computer is built. It is the information processing platform for the computer and directs all of the subsequent programs that are installed on the computer how to manipulate the data that comes into the computer. All programs must conform to the operating system. Patches and utilities help the OS to do its job more effectively.
I began to think that this is similar to how we as human beings function. Human beings also have a motherboard comprised of genetics, DNA, predispositions and temperament. These are hardwired. Parents then install the operating system. The OS provides the basic information needed for organizing behavior and for interpreting the data received from the world around them.
Early Childhood Programming
As children we receive information from the world around us. We have experiences; receive knowledge, experiment, etc. This becomes our data. As children we have limited capacity to interpret data simply because our brains have not yet developed. We often may misinterpret information. We become needlessly frightened of bogey men that we have never seen, don't know enough to stay away from the flame, and will run headlong into traffic unless stopped. Parents try to teach us how to interpret the world. They offer us certain principles for understanding, teach us values, and often given us their world view in terms of beliefs and prejudices. Together these principles, beliefs, morals and values combine to become our operating system. We develop "programs" for understanding various aspects of life. We learn what things can hurt us, what things taste good, what behaviors are acceptable, and so forth. With this operating system and the various programs that are installed within the system, we are able to function in the world.
By the time we reach adolescence, this operating system becomes relatively fixed. However, as we mature we make some modifications in the operating system. These modifications or patches are added to our operating system to help us better understand our world and to more accurately interpret the data we receive through experience and education. However, the basic operating system (our core beliefs, values, morals, principles) may not change. We merely learn to work around the operating system in order to be more able to communicate and interact with the world around us. We tend to interpret the world through our operating system, seeking confirmation of what we already believe. We have all noticed how some people seem to be saying, "I have my beliefs, don't confuse me with the facts." These folks have an operating system with very few patches and a limited number of programs with which they function in the world. I had a brother-in-law who would say, "In this house it will always be 1959." Obviously, he did not embrace change.
Resistance to Change
In my practice as a psychologist, I have noticed that many people enter psychotherapy with the attitude, "I will let you help me as long as I don't have to change." Change is difficult: or put another way, it is simple but not always easy. As I mentioned above, as children we begin to develop an operating system. By the time we reach our 20s this operating system has congealed and it become the foundation for our modus operandi in the world. We develop attitudes and beliefs about ourselves, women, men, relationships, religion, work, and so on. We develop ways of coping with stress, perceptions of our parents, and a host of adaptive behaviors. For the most part these beliefs, adaptations, attitudes, and behaviors work well for us....until they don't. When all of the fixes we have tried falter, some of us seek professional help in the form of psychotherapy, counseling, or coaching.
For the most part, these helpers or healers assist us to develop better ways of coping. We learn new behaviors and new coping skills. We learn to understand ourselves better. However, just as often fundamental change eludes us. These techniques serve much as utility programs, patches, and other add-ons help us with our computers making the operating system that was installed on the machine function better. The operating system remains fundamentally unchanged.
At some point in our lives, all computers will need to be upgraded. They will need a new operating system in order to manage in the ever-increasing amount of information and data that we will need to process. The world is in constant flux and there is more information available to us now than ever before in history. Computers and their operating systems are designed to help us process this information more quickly and efficiently. Merely patching new add-on programs onto the old system is insufficient and inefficient. It is time to upgrade.
Upgrading Our Internal Operating System
Similarly, it is often necessary to upgrade our internal operating system. The way in which we processed information as adolescents no longer works to our advantage when we are in our 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and so on. After all, how many of us in our 30s would listen to a teenager tell us how we should live our lives. Yet that is exactly what many people do. They use an old operating system, based on antiquated ideas and values, to make assessments of the world today. They rigidly hold onto the safety of the familiar even when it has out-lived its usefulness. Over the years, people make corrections, changes, but they seldom undertake the installation of a new operating system.
This would entail a complete re-evaluation of assumptions, beliefs, values, and behaviors, often as dramatic as that which was required of our ancestors when realizing that the sun did not rotate around the earth or that the earth was round rather than flat. That is, it would require a complete overhaul of one's world view. Of course, this does not require that everything that one believes would be thrown out. Just as with a computer, old programs may still function quite well in a new operating system. But many will not.
It would be similar to deciding to re-decorate a home using a new theme. Instead of being based, for example, on an Early American theme, the new decor might reflect a predominantly contemporary theme. Nonetheless, some of the old pieces of furniture and furnishings may fit quite well within the new theme. But there must be at least the willingness to consider disposing of each piece in order to determine whether or not it would fit in the new theme. Likewise, on the human level, it would be necessary to be willing to examine all of the old beliefs to determine whether it fits the new paradigm.
Perhaps it is time for all of us to re-examine our operating system. We live in very different world today than it was fifty years ago. We have witnessed wars, watched stock market rise and then collapse, and seen the World Trade Center under siege. We have more information today than ever before. We have more medical information, treatment for disease and addiction, deeper psychological understanding, and more effective ways of living our lives. We have seen our country move from being the automobile and manufacturing center of the world, to being more of services provider and financial capital. Things today are different. So we have to change as well. At one time the most important thing for a man to do was to have a job in order to provide for his family. It was believed that if he worked for 30-40 years on the job, his future would be secured; we found that is not necessarily the case. It was believed that a family consisted of a man, a woman, two kids, and a dog. Now we know that a family and marriage can be between same-sexed people, people of different races, and that children can be birthed through surrogates and embryos implanted in vitro. The world is different. Perhaps a new operating would help understand our world and ourselves more effectively, realistically, and efficiently.
Some people resist change. They function in the world perfectly fine as long as everything fits into their existing world view. They don't like new fangled technology or new fangled ideas. It is only when forced to change that they even consider modifying a position and then only under duress. When it comes to computers, they would still be using Windows 95 if they could get their programs to work.
Layman's Introduction to Computers
For those of you who are not familiar with computer lingo, let me introduce you to the phrase "operating system". The operating system or OS on a computer is the platform from which all of the programs that are installed on the computer function. These programs are installed within the operating system and are used to manipulate data, e.g., to run spreadsheets or create documents. The data put into a computer does not change; however, they way it is manipulated may change depending on the program and/or operating system handles data.
Each computer comes with a motherboard that is the brain of the computer. It is the hard-wiring. The OS is installed after the computer is built. It is the information processing platform for the computer and directs all of the subsequent programs that are installed on the computer how to manipulate the data that comes into the computer. All programs must conform to the operating system. Patches and utilities help the OS to do its job more effectively.
I began to think that this is similar to how we as human beings function. Human beings also have a motherboard comprised of genetics, DNA, predispositions and temperament. These are hardwired. Parents then install the operating system. The OS provides the basic information needed for organizing behavior and for interpreting the data received from the world around them.
Early Childhood Programming
As children we receive information from the world around us. We have experiences; receive knowledge, experiment, etc. This becomes our data. As children we have limited capacity to interpret data simply because our brains have not yet developed. We often may misinterpret information. We become needlessly frightened of bogey men that we have never seen, don't know enough to stay away from the flame, and will run headlong into traffic unless stopped. Parents try to teach us how to interpret the world. They offer us certain principles for understanding, teach us values, and often given us their world view in terms of beliefs and prejudices. Together these principles, beliefs, morals and values combine to become our operating system. We develop "programs" for understanding various aspects of life. We learn what things can hurt us, what things taste good, what behaviors are acceptable, and so forth. With this operating system and the various programs that are installed within the system, we are able to function in the world.
By the time we reach adolescence, this operating system becomes relatively fixed. However, as we mature we make some modifications in the operating system. These modifications or patches are added to our operating system to help us better understand our world and to more accurately interpret the data we receive through experience and education. However, the basic operating system (our core beliefs, values, morals, principles) may not change. We merely learn to work around the operating system in order to be more able to communicate and interact with the world around us. We tend to interpret the world through our operating system, seeking confirmation of what we already believe. We have all noticed how some people seem to be saying, "I have my beliefs, don't confuse me with the facts." These folks have an operating system with very few patches and a limited number of programs with which they function in the world. I had a brother-in-law who would say, "In this house it will always be 1959." Obviously, he did not embrace change.
Resistance to Change
In my practice as a psychologist, I have noticed that many people enter psychotherapy with the attitude, "I will let you help me as long as I don't have to change." Change is difficult: or put another way, it is simple but not always easy. As I mentioned above, as children we begin to develop an operating system. By the time we reach our 20s this operating system has congealed and it become the foundation for our modus operandi in the world. We develop attitudes and beliefs about ourselves, women, men, relationships, religion, work, and so on. We develop ways of coping with stress, perceptions of our parents, and a host of adaptive behaviors. For the most part these beliefs, adaptations, attitudes, and behaviors work well for us....until they don't. When all of the fixes we have tried falter, some of us seek professional help in the form of psychotherapy, counseling, or coaching.
For the most part, these helpers or healers assist us to develop better ways of coping. We learn new behaviors and new coping skills. We learn to understand ourselves better. However, just as often fundamental change eludes us. These techniques serve much as utility programs, patches, and other add-ons help us with our computers making the operating system that was installed on the machine function better. The operating system remains fundamentally unchanged.
At some point in our lives, all computers will need to be upgraded. They will need a new operating system in order to manage in the ever-increasing amount of information and data that we will need to process. The world is in constant flux and there is more information available to us now than ever before in history. Computers and their operating systems are designed to help us process this information more quickly and efficiently. Merely patching new add-on programs onto the old system is insufficient and inefficient. It is time to upgrade.
Upgrading Our Internal Operating System
Similarly, it is often necessary to upgrade our internal operating system. The way in which we processed information as adolescents no longer works to our advantage when we are in our 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and so on. After all, how many of us in our 30s would listen to a teenager tell us how we should live our lives. Yet that is exactly what many people do. They use an old operating system, based on antiquated ideas and values, to make assessments of the world today. They rigidly hold onto the safety of the familiar even when it has out-lived its usefulness. Over the years, people make corrections, changes, but they seldom undertake the installation of a new operating system.
This would entail a complete re-evaluation of assumptions, beliefs, values, and behaviors, often as dramatic as that which was required of our ancestors when realizing that the sun did not rotate around the earth or that the earth was round rather than flat. That is, it would require a complete overhaul of one's world view. Of course, this does not require that everything that one believes would be thrown out. Just as with a computer, old programs may still function quite well in a new operating system. But many will not.
It would be similar to deciding to re-decorate a home using a new theme. Instead of being based, for example, on an Early American theme, the new decor might reflect a predominantly contemporary theme. Nonetheless, some of the old pieces of furniture and furnishings may fit quite well within the new theme. But there must be at least the willingness to consider disposing of each piece in order to determine whether or not it would fit in the new theme. Likewise, on the human level, it would be necessary to be willing to examine all of the old beliefs to determine whether it fits the new paradigm.
Perhaps it is time for all of us to re-examine our operating system. We live in very different world today than it was fifty years ago. We have witnessed wars, watched stock market rise and then collapse, and seen the World Trade Center under siege. We have more information today than ever before. We have more medical information, treatment for disease and addiction, deeper psychological understanding, and more effective ways of living our lives. We have seen our country move from being the automobile and manufacturing center of the world, to being more of services provider and financial capital. Things today are different. So we have to change as well. At one time the most important thing for a man to do was to have a job in order to provide for his family. It was believed that if he worked for 30-40 years on the job, his future would be secured; we found that is not necessarily the case. It was believed that a family consisted of a man, a woman, two kids, and a dog. Now we know that a family and marriage can be between same-sexed people, people of different races, and that children can be birthed through surrogates and embryos implanted in vitro. The world is different. Perhaps a new operating would help understand our world and ourselves more effectively, realistically, and efficiently.
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